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Letting Go for Better Parenting

 

  • “Attending birthday parties of children whose families we don’t know well.  It isn’t personal.  In fact, that’s the point: it isn’t personal.
  • Making sure my house is perfect before people come over.  If you think my house is too messy/small/poorly decorated, there is the door.  Don’t let it hit ya where God split ya.
  • Caring what others think about the educational decisions I make for my kids.
  • Caring what others think about our schedule in general.
  • Highly organized soccer three year olds (WHY DO PEOPLE KEEP DOING THIS?)…
  • Putting myself last.
  • Going to events or functions that have no major relevance to my life and/or are not enjoyable.
  • Being overly serious
  • Trying to keep “work” hours, “family” hours, “friend” hours, and “husband” hours.”

Article: Things I have let go in my parenting and family life, Meghan Leahy: Parent Coach

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Gratitude in Adolescents Makes Them More Resilient

““Gratitude is the ability to be aware of the gifts life provides that we have done absolutely nothing to earn, deserve or receive,” said Dr. Emmons in an email interview.

Seven hundred middle school students were assessed on their measures of gratitude, pro-social behavior, life satisfaction and social integration every three months for a six-month period.

The researchers found that gratitude is a complex emotion that begins to spark in children around the ages of 10 and 14.

“Participants were instructed to count up to five things in which they were thankful for and write and deliver an appreciation letter to someone. Aside from the control group, the non-control group were taught to think gratefully,” Dr. Bono said.

 After a six-month period, participants’ measures on these assessments were analyzed. The study took three years to complete.

Gratitude interventions can enhance feelings of resiliency, which acts as a buffer in times of adversity,” Dr. Froh said.

The researchers found that six months after the study, the participants who were taught to be more appreciative achieved easier social integration — meaning they were more socially adept and fit in better with peers. Social integration was found to be negatively associated with depression, envy, delinquency and antisocial behavior. Consequently, it was found to be positively correlated with a higher grade point average, life satisfaction, positive affect, self-esteem, hope and happiness.”

Article: Gratefulness leads to happiness, The California Aggie